Wellness Wednesday: Husband Shares Story Of Caretaking For His Wife Battling Alzheimer’s Disease

November is Alzheimer's Awareness Month as well as National Family Caregivers Month. One Oklahoma man is sharing how Alzheimer’s disease and becoming a caretaker became instrumental parts of his life.

Wednesday, November 16th 2022, 2:39 pm



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November is Alzheimer's Awareness Month as well as National Family Caregivers Month. One Oklahoma man is sharing how Alzheimer’s disease and becoming a caretaker became instrumental parts of his life.

Jay Parks is a father, husband, business owner and caretaker. He shared the beauty and hardship that comes along with walking through illness with someone he loves.

"In my specific circumstance, my mother had Alzheimer's (disease), and my father was her caregiver,” Parks said. “And it cost him his life.”

Parks said his father died of a broken heart.

"My father would call me multiple times at two in the morning and say, ‘Jay, you have to talk to your mother because she doesn't think that I am her husband,’” Parks said. “And the relief in her voice to this day makes me emotional because she was so relieved.”  

More than 6 million people in the United State have been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. More than 11 million people provide unpaid care for those suffering from the disease.

Parks' mother died of the disease in 2005. In 2019, Alzheimer’s caused him devastation once again.

"I came home on a Friday afternoon, and she said she went for a walk,” Parks said. “And that scared me to death. I said, ‘Where did you go?’ And she said, ‘I don't remember.’”

When Jay's wife, Holly, was officially diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's, his life changed once again.

"The grocery store was interesting because I was afraid to be gone too long," said Parks.

He was losing the woman he married 37 years ago as she sat right in front of him.

"They call it ‘The Long Goodbye’ because my wife's voice is there, but she is not,” Parks said. “My wife's body is there, but she is not. I get to hold her hand, but it feels different than when we were married.”

Parks was letting go of the life he imagined.

"I didn't dream of growing old with my mother,” Parks said. “I didn't dream of spending my golden years with my mother, but I did with my wife and that has been taken from me.”

Now, Parks wants to highlight the importance of caring for the caretakers.

"I want to support them,” Parks said. “I want to encourage them that it is OK to (be) selfish. It is OK to take them to adult daycare, so you can get a minute. So you don't have to race through a grocery store."

"I'm not going to give up because I want the first survivor, and I want it in my lifetime and I want it to be my wife,” Parks said. “But I want the first person."

If you know a caregiver, Jay encourages you to reach out to them and offer them support to know they are not alone. He also encourages the community to donate to the Alzheimer's Association and participate in the Alzheimer's walk.

If you’d like to learn more about Alzheimer’s disease, click here.

If you are a caretaker, here are some resources available by clicking here.

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