In the days after the Oklahoma City bombing, a woman whose two little grandsons were murdered in the blast, contemplated suicide. Instead, incredibly, she found peace through a relationship with one of the bombers.
Kathy Sanders tells me how her journey to try to understand April 19 took her to the very hotel room where Timothy McVeigh slept in before the bombing. Possibly the most surprising is her friendship with Terry Nichols' mother.
"I don't know why, but I went over to her," Kathy remembers telling her, "I just want you to know how sorry I am for your family and I hugged her."
That triggered something she hadn't expected, a rare moment of peace. It also brought something she hadn't wanted.
"I remember going to my mailbox and there's a letter the postman delivered," she said, remembering it had Terry Nichols written on the envelope. "When I did write back, I took it to the post office, because I didn't want it hanging on my door."
Kathy and Nichols began exchanging letters. In fact, hundreds through the years, always hoping to get more information about the bombing. She never did, but Kathy said through those letters, a few jail house visits with Nichols and even welcoming Nichols' family into her home, God has taught her to forgive the unforgivable.
"When you offer forgiveness, it's a gift you're giving yourself," Kathy said.
Kathy Sanders has written a book about her journey. It's called "Now You See Me: How I Forgave The Unforgivable."