He was diagnosed with PTSD shortly after serving in the Gulf War in 1990, but in the last three years, Sasha says things started to get worse.
“Alcohol abuse, had 10 DUI's, fighting, you name it,” Horinek said.
The family started with the Oklahoma City VA where Paul was offered outpatient weekly therapy.
“We didn't think it would be a good idea for him to go to outpatient and bring up all these feelings that he had buried, and then come home to our high stress house,” Horinek said.
So, Sasha says they opted for residential treatment at the VA Medical Center in Topeka, but documents say therapists there felt they couldn't provide the help Paul needed.
He was discharged four weeks early.
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“If you think someone needs more help, set something in place. Don't send them home. I didn't know how to help him,” said Horinek. “I tried to call everybody I knew, the crisis line, everybody.”
Paul shot and killed himself inside their Ponca City home two weeks after his release. Their children were sleeping downstairs.
“I jumped up and started yelling for him,” Horinek said.
In the discharge paperwork it reads, "patient expresses disappointment and frustration with the team decision."
Sasha says Paul thought he had let his family down. The war vet had been treated for substance abuse issues in the past, but never for PTSD, which Horinek says was the underlying problem.
“I never thought that I could hurt this bad ever, and it's something that of course will never leave me," said Horinek. "He died in our home, in our bedroom.”
The VA did set Paul up with an outpatient service after he was discharged from the VA in Topeka. Paul took his life on July 22, just two days before his first appointment.
“Basically, I want to raise awareness. Paul was always a lot better at reaching out a hand to someone else. Even after all the adversity he had in his life, he maintained a heart of gold,” said Horinek. “He cared about his brothers, his military brothers. I don't want this to happen to another family.”
There is confidential help available for veterans and their families.
Veterans Crisis Line: 1-800-273-8255
Make the Connection (Shared Experiences and Support for Veterans)