Oh The Things People Say

Friday, November 4th 2011, 1:54 pm
By: News 9

I have a sign on my desk that says "Work With Me People". I think I need to get one to wear around my neck that says "Think Before You Speak"! I've heard my share of comments that just make me cringe. It used to be, "Just relax, then you'll have a baby". If only it was that easy! We took months 'off' from trying. We took great wine vacations during "optimal" times. But the latest comment got my blood boiling. A stranger came up to introduce herself. She said she was a stay at home mom and had 1 child. There is nothing odd about that conversation, and I didn't mind her asking if we had children. But then the next question really rubbed me the wrong way. She asked, "Well do you WANT children?" What am I supposed to say, "No, kids annoy me." Or the truth, "Yes, but I may be allergic to my husband's swimmers." I think I was so taken aback that I simply answered, "We sure hope to someday". I'm sure that was the right thing to say. (Looking back on that, it's not really that big of a deal being asked if I want kids. But I think when you're in the heart of fertility treatments, you read into comments and your heart breaks that you don't have a child).